**What turns us on:**— mutual desire and strong chemistry— flirting and teasing— confidence— a look that says more than words— mystery and anticipation— openness without being vulgar— attention and genuine interest— spontaneity and unexpected moments— someone who. **What turns us off:**— being rude without mutual interest— being pushy— lies and mind games— disrespecting personal boundaries— boring, emotionless communication— pressure and lack of mutual desire.